You, the Mingle-r; and I, the Mixer (of course, you can put anyone you want in there instead of “I” and it’ll be wonderful; but ‘we [miracle]-men gotta dream, don’t we?’ )
“Marriages” and “Weddings” are different animals (in adjoining cages). A Wedding is essentially the announcement (as far-and-wide as you can tell it) that the [spouse]s spend all their [chip]s in a [bet] on the [success] of the [marriage].
Lady Orlova, I here ‘declare’ (feeling Shakespearian in a Napoleonic way ) that I would gladly spend all my chips in a bet on your relationship with whoever is lucky enough to be chosen by you!
I thus add my name to the wide-wide-[wide] selection you might choose-from (if you haven’t chosen ‘definitely not MythMan’ already!) and–whatever you decide–will continue to serve gladly.
No, Dude! Too SPAMmy! at least put in something like, ‘That sounds like the inspiration for Natasha Bedingfield’s song “Single”‘ (though the ‘Single’-video wasn’t up, but she looked enough like-Our-Lady that I couldn’t help but go on to listen to “Soulmate”–which sounded right–and to link to THAT song).
Natasha Bedingfield looks so much like Our Lady that I’m inspired to review a few more of her selections and maybe add them to my profile-playlist at MySpace.
(In case the SPAM to which I replied–a plain-ol` link to Natasha Bedingfield’s “Single”–gets justly erased, here’s the reply:)
No, Dude! Too SPAMmy! at least put in something like, ‘That sounds like the inspiration for Natasha Bedingfield’s song “Single”‘ (though the ‘Single’-video wasn’t up, but she looked enough like-Our-Lady that I couldn’t help but go on to listen to “Soulmate”–which sounded right–and to link to THAT song).
Natasha Bedingfield looks so much like Our Lady that I’m inspired to review a few more of her selections and maybe add them to my profile-playlist at MySpace.
Marriage had never crossed my mind until I saw you reciting the origin of the word wedding. Wow, intelligence and mischevious beauty, what a great combo! Keep up the good work!!!
Weddings are a gamble but when you win, you win big. We have our 30th anniversary coming up and I’m starting to think I might risk getting a tattoo with my wife’s name!
Marina placed sinister, menacing music at the end of this video. She is right that marriage is a pledge to love only the one she has chosen, so the music choice must mean that Marina will always be true to her pledge. Therefore, she is an ideal person to marry.
In Marina’s “clown” video, there’s a scene in which Marina screams and hides under the bed covers. Someone wrote, “I hope that’s not Marina on her wedding night!” I think Marina is very serious about marriage. Too bad Im not wealthy enough, don’t speak Russian well, nor would I travel very well in Russia.
But, seriously floks, I have always wanted to travel to the “Russian sphere.” Perhaps, when I finish this degree in 2011, Lady M could me to get a teaching job.
With all the talk about the (“Fairness Doctrine”) and talk radio; what is the (Fairness Doctrine). Love is Intellectualism. Some people make more mistakes for their children, than do others. Empathy Cry civility can be silly
Hey thanks Mike, the 2nd link, which is the long one with the words Bad Cop in it, I messed up. It should have been the following link. I left HTTP empty by assident.
The last link with “favorite HotForWord videos” goes to Forum page called “YT-Music-and-Videos”. Hover your cursor over that link and you’ll see it in status bar. When you click on that link it goes to my posting on that page. It may take a few seconds for that page to load.
I would like to request the word [toast] as it has many different meanings.
it could mean, to make a toast to something.
it could mean, to toast or cook something.
and it could also be the food, toast.
please marina, i’d love for you to post this word for me.
Close! I’ll reverse my current trend and be married for five years and then divorced for thirteen! I knew that the thirteenth would get the best of me…or worst…LOL! Now I have [triskaidekaphobia]. Marina could look into that word. Sorry for the word request, but seemed appropriate for the moment!
Uhm I’ve been wondering where my name really comes from [MiMi] since it seems to be a really popular name and I can find at least 1 person from each country (Algeria, France, US, Brazil, Mexico, Spain, Vietnam, China, Australia, Germany, Austria…) that has the same name.
You guys need to click on the Jockey underwear add and look around a few minutes so Marina will get credit for the viewing of the add. I didn’t look so I don’t know whats there.
Hey! you didn’t “walk the talk” — so don’t expect me to click on the ad and look around. And, since I haven’t looked, I am now dying of curiosity to know in detail what’s underneath there. ???
I didn’t see any sign of an Adams apple so I think you are right Bob, but, you know the old proverbial but, you can’t always go by not seeing an Adams apple. So I have no doubts she is all woman.
Love is a gift from God. Falling in love is a serious form of insanity. Being in love is not a choice, not a thing we have conscious control over. Promising to love another forever is an exercise in futility and self-delusion. So is promising to still love another next week.
If you don’t like to gamble, then you are probbly the one to marry. Those who are sure from the start. They will most likely be the ones to value love and marriage and do everything they can to make it work. If two are this same way, I think the chances of it working are very ,very good. But if one is only half-hearted about love, it is easily broken. Because they just do not care enough.And love will be tested many times and ways. I have ever been married because maybe I haven’t found someoone who truly values this love above all.. It may sound corny in today’s cinical world, but those who know it, hold the most valuable thing of all in their little hands. Fools will never understand.
A fool for love? It is like jumping off the sofa trusting the one you love will always catch you. Don’t gamble and have your heart broken. Wait for your prince charming, Marina. And the real love…
Tragic fact: One consequence of Chinese culture destroying the spirit of women into being slaves (e.g., tying up feet of baby girls for several years so that the feet remain tiny) — recent (Jan 12, 09) story of 107 year old Chinese woman seeking first husband: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090112/wl_nm/us_china_bride_centenarian
As this is the “inside” time of year for sports on tv, sleeping in late, etc…
These are our rules! Please note … these are all numbered “1″ ON
PURPOSE!
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down.
1. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present, yet again!
1. Sometimes, we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
1. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and NASCAR.
1. Sunday = sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!
1. We don’t remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar.
Remind us frequently beforehand.
1. Most guys own three pairs of shoes – tops. What makes you think we’d be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
1. Yes and No, are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Check your oil! Please.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If something we said could be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it’s genetic.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
1. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors
, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
Oh I remember reading this one years ago! Thanks John for bringing it back. Now if only the ladies would read this and learn from it, we would get a long much better.
That just twisted my mind all to hell! On the first dictionary Marina posted to the right stating it’s a joke. I wonder “Is it really?” The second dictionary she doesn’t claim that it’s a joke or not.
This all has me saying ” I drank what? ” It also leaves me very confused, embarrassed, and mostly lost. This also takes language between the sexes to a whole new level for me. I see it puts words in a different light. Words towards and from women are no longer black and white in their meaning but in a gray area that depends on their mood or feeling at the time.
Now I’m very paranoid about what I say. I even fear talking to my sister. This is just messed me up. I have complete doubt of anything I hear or said that what was said was understood. I feel like a turtle and need to climb back into my shell in fear that I’m going to be shot in my sleep. You think I’m kidding?…….
Yeah. It amazes me how people make it work. I’ve seen more failures than successes. I do find the ones who can make it work are very flexible people. Those kind of people are very rare now days.
“Don’t marry a woman who loves Jesus more than you; you’ll always suffer from the comparisons.”
Oh yeah, another blast from Mom: “How would you feel if your DAUGHTERS were doing what that Russian woman is doing, sitting on her bed in a low-cut dress flirting with men??!!” I didn’t dare tell her I’d be proud of their scholarship and entrepreneurship.
Good thing I didn’t show her my “teacher’s pet” award (in “scrumtrilescent”); it would have fried her brain!
I must have missed that.
I was looking at the eyes.
Let me check that again.
Wow!!! Like the Retartid Policeman said, “Boobies!”
Dang, I’ll have to have you around more often to point those things out.
Ohhhh, and speaking of “Boobies”,
did you know Marina did this awesome video lesson
on, you guessed it, Booby. Check it out, it’s another classic HotForWords video.
I miss the good ole days or videos. Not saying the ones you make today aren’t great {oh I better hush while I'm ahead. I made such a boob out of myself}
I love the video annotations @0:28 into the video.
The left video annotation is the wonderful video that Marina made of the the origin of the word Casino, which was made on July 30, 2007.
Wow, time sure flies when you’re having fun.
I tried to figure out whether “Las Vegas Edition” (at :23) referred to the lesson having reference to Las Vegas (gambling, elopement etc.) or to the lesson having been made while in Las Vegas. For all I can tell, this lesson could have been made in LA.
Also, the ~7 seconds of introduction are NOT a copy of the same content at 1:30!
And, at about 0:07, I like that she used the word “phee” (rather than “meh” — “meh” is so phee )!
Hey hs4mm,
Interesting comment about the “phee” vs. “meh”
Did you know Marina made a video lesson on the word “meh”? I didn’t see any of your comments on that video, so I presume that you joined us here after that video was made?
I have seen the meh video; in fact, that is where I heard the word for the first time; and have not head the word elsewhere. I don’t like that word (“meh”) because it comes across as a cheap rip-off of the word “nah” — it is a lame attempt at originality.
Teacher –
I was married once, and tell everyone (ripping off a joke I heard somewhere) that “Instead of marrying again, I’ll just find a woman I hate, and buy her a house”…
Marina, if you will marry me, I will build you a big house in the Arbat and make you Princess of the Apocalypse!
(see Marina Orlova in the two characters that follow)
The business day was coming to an end at the U.S. Embassy in Moscow on Friday, October 31, 2020. Ambassador Helene Linder had already left the consular building for her residence, Spaso House, to prepare for a formal dinner starting at 6:30 at the German Ambassador‘s lovely residence at 46 Povarskaya. At 4:12, her chief of staff Bill Lambourne was still in the office. He was surprised to receive notice from the Embassy’s front reception desk that there was a phone call for the Ambassador’s office from the office of the Russian Foreign Minister, Dimetri Korlova (*******1). Lambourne glanced at his desk phone to make sure that the Embassy’s telephone recording system “capture” light was on for Line 2 and directed the receptionist to switch the call there. Then he took a deep breath, punched the line and greeted the caller in customary Russian, “Slushiyu, eta Bill Lambourne,” knowing full well that whomever was on the other end would know him by name. As he expected, the caller was his equal in the minister’s office, Staff Director Marina Orlovakov(*********2). Very professionally, in perfect English, the beautiful blonde said, “Mr. Lambourne, good day. The minister formally requests Ambassador Linder to be at his office at 10am tomorrow morning, to review new evidence regarding the assassination of President Palmer. The Minister would like to meet only with Mrs. Linder.”
Unclassified
HAIPE v1.35 encryption
Copyright 2009, John Guthrie
The next morning, at 10 am Moscow, 200 miles over Sri Lanka the warhead deployment bus undocks from the Chinese space station. By the time the meeting is complete between Linder and Korlova, a new state of war- beyond hot or cold- will exist on Earth. It’s Halloween in America as the seven seals are broken and the ghosts arise from the depths of the Earth under Wyoming. It’s time for Apocalypse, News at 11. I wrote Dick Cheney last week and told him he’s in the book. I got a letter and a photo back. Arf Arf!
Two engineering students were walking across campus when one said,
“Where did you get such a great bike?”
The second engineer replied, “Well, I was walking along yesterday
minding my own business when a beautiful woman rode up on this bike.
She took one look at me, threw the bike to the ground, took off all
her clothes and said to me, ‘Take what you want’ , so I did.”
The second engineer nodded approvingly.
“Good choice; the clothes probably wouldn’t have fit.”
Take 2
What is the difference between Mechanical Engineers and Civil Engineers?
Mechanical Engineers build weapons and Civil Engineers build targets.
Take 3
Three engineering students were gathered together discussing the possible designers of the human body. One said, “It was a mechanical engineer. Just look at all the joints.”
Another said, “No, it was an electrical engineer. The nervous system has many thousands of electrical connections.”
The last one said, “Actually it must have been a civil engineer. Who else would run a toxic waste pipeline through a recreational area?”
Take 4
An architect, an artist and an engineer were discussing whether it was better to spend time with the wife or a mistress. The architect said he enjoyed time with his wife, building a solid foundation for an enduring relationship. The artist said he enjoyed time with his mistress, because the passion and mystery he found there. The engineer said, “I like both.”
“Both?”
Engineer: “Yeah. If you have a wife and a mistress, they will each assume you are spending time with the other woman, and you can go to the lab and get some work done.”
Take 5
An engineer was crossing a road one-day when a frog called out to him and said, “If you kiss me, I’ll turn into a beautiful princess.” He bent over, picked up the frog and put it in his pocket.
The frog spoke up again and said, “If you kiss me and turn me back into a beautiful princess, I will stay with you for one week.” The engineer took the frog out of his pocket, smiled at it and returned it to the pocket.
The frog then cried out, “If you kiss me and turn me back into a princess, I’ll stay with you and do ANYTHING you want.” Again the engineer took the frog out, smiled at it and put it back into his pocket.
Finally, the frog asked, “What is the matter? I’ve told you I’m a beautiful princess and that I’ll stay with you for a week and do anything you want. Why won’t you kiss me?” The engineer said, “Look, I’m an engineer. I don’t have time for a girl friend, but a talking frog, now that’s cool.”
I found them especially funny since I’m training to become an engineer.
It’s been raining here for a couple of days, but still in the 60’s (F°) and this is expected to continue until Monday. The sunny high-pressure bliss of last week held off the rains and there may be a repeat pattern soon. It is being said that this year may turn out to be the biggest drought year in CA history. Folsom Lake is down to 22%, which is where we get our water.
I propose that all of you that are freezing simply box up your snow and ice and ship it here, where our turrible, turrible heat will melt it, filling our rivers once again. Also this will require USPS to hire more mail staff, thus stimulating the economy and ending the recession. There, it’s all solved. What’s the big problem?
I was looking at a globe on a desk and realized that Sacramento is downhill from Canada. This got me to thinking that some sort of ramp could be built to slide the snow down to your area… much like you see on the back of cement trucks… just a lot bigger! We could get those Canucks build it in central Canada and have both eastern and western Canadians pitch in.
No, it’s called ["narcissism,"] a fancy Greek-mythology word for “me first.” Each person thinks his or her desires are more important than the other person or the relationship.
Fatbuffalo, maybe you could tell us about Chinese marriages. I understand your divorce rate is quite low. If so, why do Chinese couples stay together more than Americans?
hmm , maybe its our customs .Or moral values . Or its a traditional thing , passed down by generations . conservative perhaps . But basically once we get married we just stick together
In all far eastern countries, the family is the mainstay of society. Whereas in the West people get married and leave home to set up on their own, in the East the family unit is a much more important part of life and traditionally, families are much more integrated.
Maybe this has something to do with your question. Family pressures and traditional values are stronger glue than isolated, self centred couples.
Been there, done that, twice. I think marriage is an outdated religious institution. There is no reason why two people can’t give there selves to each other without all the legal mumbo jumbo!
Marriage is a good thing; it can only go bad because of the individuals involved.
There are no perfect marriages because there are no perfect people. When that is recognized by each spouse and the willingness by both to confess one’s failings is accompanied by continual willingness to forgive and adapt, then a marriage is successful.
I’ve thought about getting married many times. A few times I didn’t think the gal I was with would make a good mother for children.
Also, my doctor told me I have a split personality. So I asked him what kind? He said banana. I asked what he thought I should do about it? I think he said, “take it easy on Sundays! or something like that”
The sterotypical opera always has as one of its characters a fat lady playing the part of a female Viking, wearing the war hat with horns, etc. This character has to sing at some point, so until she does, obviously, the opera cannot be complete. The phrase means that some process is not complete until some necessary event occurs. It is more a wisecrack than anything else.
Question: Why can’t Marina play the fat lady in an opera?
Answer: She can’t sing.
It is called a “Jerrycan” or Gerrycan” because the design was taken from the Germans during World War II. “Jerry” was a slang name for Germans during the war.
I just saw a video on YT that had an pop-up ad for itunes and a link to itunes for the song they used in the vid.
I’ve never seen that before! …now somebodys thinkin’!
Heres the vid http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XkgcohULjY
well, as a divorcée, i’m probably not the right person to ask…
but i’m all for marriage…two hearts beating as one, joined not just physically, but soulfully…yep…i like it…but it would have to be like this:
If questioning would make us wise
No eyes would ever gaze in eyes;
If all our tale were told in speech
No mouths would wander each to each.
Were spirits free from mortal mesh
And love not bound in hearts of flesh
No aching would yearn to meet
And find their ecstasy complete.
For who is there that lives and knows
The secret powers by which he grows?
Were knowledge all, what were our need
To thrill and faint and sweetly bleed?
Then seek not, sweet, the If and Why
I love you now until I die:
For I must love because I live
And life in me is what you give. – Because She Would Ask Me Why I Loved Her – Christopher Brennan
now tell me that is NOT the hottest piece of poetry you’ve ever read…
Word Request [ TOAST ]
[ TOAST ] [ TOAST ]
I’m with Che Volay a few comments below. Why does it mean to raise a glass to someone or something and is also a crispy peice of bread?
Peanut butter(chunky) and blueberry jam on TOAST with a huge glass of whole milk, now thats a marriage made in heaven!
I like my toast all bent out of shape with mustard, fried onions and a 100% pure beef hotdog wiener… if not that, then… buttered and topped off with a poached egg, steamed asparagus tips and some hollandaise sauce.
The spelling of [sugar] may be a remnant of its original pronunciation, as-sukar (from Arabic, which may have come to English via the Spanish azúcar.) I.e. it used to be pronounced “s” and not “sh”.
["Sure"] may have come from the French “sûr,” so that again, the English spelling may reflect its earlier French pronunciation.
Maybe Bob will come by later and give us some puns on “sugar, sure” & related words. Right now I’m not in the mood.
Hi Marina
I’ve always wondered about the origins of these two words.[although) as in "I'd love to wed, [although] I’m already married.” And [unless] as in “let’s go get married tomorrow, [unless] you’ve changed your mind.”
James it only seems to happen if you comment to some one at the very bottom. I commented to you at the bottom and it made a new comment below yours. Weird.
HW: Nah, I don’t like to gamble!
I would like to get married about the same time as Marina will. Since she is my role model! And if possible, on the same day, and to each other. :D:D
I’d like to stay single for as long as possible, and then if a relationship truly works after a number of years, with no giddy emotions I would propose. I think it’s the surest and safest way to a happy marriage.
Marina, I need some advice…. When do you think the best time would be for me to upload a new video? and also, slightly off track… What does proto mean (as in proto germanic) (its not a word request by the way I just wondered)
What’s with the scary impending-doom music in the end ? Is marriage that scary ?
I’m not really into marriage as M said the rate of divorce is high . Money scamming perhaps ?
I don’t know if Jack or PK or Doug has mentioned it, but Marina is now number one over Phil De Franco. She’s number one Yay. So like jack said earlier vote vote vote so we can keep her that way.
Nice one teacher. The idea of getting married? Pffff.. Oh boy. Makes me think of running like hell, running away as fast as a frightened rabbit in front of a full pack of sharp-toothed greyhounds. But! Women and children first! That’s the implacable law of gentlemanhood.
Be British, boys, be British!
- Captain Edward John Smith, RMS Titanic, before dawn, 15 April 1912.
Since only the author of a replied-to msg gets the E-mail notification, there should be some way to direct the notification, say, if you run out of reply levels. For example, if B wishes to reply to A, but there is no Reply button to A’s msg, B could do this by beginning the reply with a code: ((A)). This would direct the notification to A, regardless of who the reply would normally go to. This redirect could be instead of or in addition to the latter. Is there any way to do this now, or would a change to WP be required? What do you all think?
I see what you mean CK. There is no way to do a direct comment to the person’s last comment unless you go to a comment that hasn’t anything to do with the last comment. Ok does that make sense? Any way only M could answer that question or if the last person that made a comment to your could add in another comment to his so there would be another reply button. But one would have to figure if no more comments could be added he could do the edit function before the timer runs out. Maybe that would help. I think I have seen M do this in the past.
The TAs used to be able to do a Nestled comment to a persons comment that didn’t have a reply button. But it was taken away I guess when the new 5 tier replies were added. Or it may have been something to do with the new version of Word Press. I miss being able to help people that do not have a reply button. Jack may be the only one that has that level of access.
Nope I can’t go any further that you Cap. Can’t even do it on th e backend. It drops the baby out of the nest and it falls all the way down to the bottom of this post. See for your self. Press your “End” key.
Which is all good anyways. Keeps the site looking better. It would be best to start a new comment with a block quote of the last comment and start anew.
I agree Jack I just forgot to inform CK of that option. I remember we had this quorum before as it distorts the site on IE6. Plus the comments would look like a slender comment.
I have been sitting here for an hour trying to figure that one out. That means if we figure it out we could be first every time. Hmmm we need to figure it out.
I thought about that same thing but quickly debunked it for you can’t change the time of the post. LOL..
I have been sitting here for an hour trying to figure that one out. That means if we figure it out we could be first every time. Hmmm we need to figure it out.
See ChemiKals comment at the very bottom. I must have missed the memo Marina put out on posting to the first commenter. As it just keeps adding on to make new comments. She even put a small line at the bottom advising not to comment at the bottom but at the top comment box.
@ Marina could I please make a request.[Could you please let us TA's know of little tid bits of info like this so we can inform others that didn't get the memo you posted.]
Thanks.
I want one child ( a boy) Having more than one can make you tired and then boring when you get old… I have already decided that if I don’t die of smoking related diseases I will be a die hard pensioner… You know, smuggling crack in my mobility scooter .I want to have a child about 25 years old and get married at that point too. I am old enough to get married now!
Whatever you decide to do James… please don’t go smuggling crack in your mobility scooter… unless that is… it’s powered with a nitrous oxide switch… in case you have the fuzz (cops) on your tail. More than likely, by the time you are that old, they’ll have marijuana muffin franchises exclusively for seniors… 1 half dozen for the geezer with glaucoma… 1 and a half dozen for the skinny old bag who has lost her appetite… 2 dozen for the big fat guy who says he has a pain in the neck!!!
For the record:
“When the Bride’s bouquet is thrown, it’s treated like a football! But, when the Bride’s garter is thrown it’s treated like a live hand grenade!”
A marriage must end in either death or divorce ( think about it ) neither a good option.
When people didn’t expect to live much past 40, marriage for life was easier ( having said that, mine only lasted 9 years ).
Whether you blame it on ‘the times’ or just acknowledge bad attitudes or what ever, few have the maturity or sincerity to the commitment required.
The largest tragedy is to the children ( and usually there are, since few are smart enough to wait – hell, few are smart enough to wait until after married ).
If it sounds jaded, so be it, but I did learn from my mistake; many just keep on screwing up.
I have it on good authority it’s the women who choose the men in this life. He can fight for her all he wants, but in the final analysis she will make the choice whether to stay with him or not. Well, I’ve been with the same woman for 14 years. We aren’t married. She said “never again,” and I’m not one to argue. For the time being, it’s all good. And in all seriousness, is there any other time than the time being?
Further up the page you say, “If it ain’t broke, fix it ’til it is!”, and that definitely seems to apply in the case of my sister.
She had two long term relationships without getting married, the first because he was not committed and the second because the first had made her nervous of commitment.
The second relationship has lasted over twenty years and they produced a super daughter who, on her 18th birthday, became their bridesmaid, when my sister finally relented and agreed to get married.
Now, four years later, he wants his “freedom” back again and has moved out, so they seem to have broken it by fixing.
I would agree with you in what you say – if it’s good “for the time being”, cherish it and live for the “now”.
No need to build bridges across dry creeks – it may never rain.
That’s pretty deep, Bob. I love the dry creek analogy.
I can’t say I know the people you’re talking about, but I can say I’ve seen more than a few parallels to your sister’s case in people whose kids are at the point of fledging. I’m not necessarily talking about the act of marriage, per se — mostly, I’m referring to the cohesion of the couple bond.
In the case of your sister and her husband, the marriage itself appears merely to have fallen victim to poor timing, in my opinion. Like many people, they may realize that they are happier together than apart in the dual eventualities of time passage and aging.
Have you ever noticed that there becomes a sudden loss of purpose, a turning point that arises in committed couples when their need to nurture and protect as a team suddenly gives way to the requirement to relinquish control and allow the offspring to go their way in the world without parental supervision? For some, there’s little resolution to this crisis.
I notice that people under stress (especially stress they can’t fully understand) will tend to turn on one another, feeling guilt or fixing blame where perhaps none is warranted. For others, retracing whatever common bonds that brought the couple together before the advent of the child (or children) is often the only thing that can save them from waking up without a mate after 15 or 20 years of cohabitation.
Also, some people have strong passions that drive their life-purpose impulses far beyond that of procreation. The danger lies in disparities between the strengths of such passions within the couple. If only one of the partners still feels a need to pursue those interests he or she may have given up in order to start raising kids, the other may tend to view it as childish or a waste of time and discord will likely result. That’s one pattern I’ve noticed as my friends age and their kids grow up and leave home.
Homework I’m not married and I enjoy being single! I’m not ready for that kind of commitment and I doubt I will get married. But, some day I might meet Miss Right and get married. Never say never!
I would like to request the words [Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday]. I know I should probably have only requested one word but as these are the days of the week I thought it would be best to mention them all?
It was after watching your “Wedding” video that put the word “Wednesday” into my head, so I thought I’d ask you about the days of the week as I am quite curious to know as to why they are used for their own day.
There have been some remarkably mature and insightful comments already, below, and the best of them from unexpected sources – quite a revelation.
Some things are clear;
1. marriages do not fail – people fail at making them successful.
2. Marriage is a contract of commitment; if people fail to realise that or fail to display any commitment, they will fail to make the marriage work. If they are more concerned with their own feelings and desires than those of their partner’s, they will fail to make the marriage work.
As with anything in life you get out in proportion to what you put in or to put it another way, “as ye sow, so shall ye reap.”
3. It is also important to allow the partner their own space and not to live in each other’s pockets. Partners who demand that their spouse dotes on them 24/7 will surely alienate that spouse. Everyone needs some “me” time to be alone with their thoughts and conscience. Possessiveness and jealousy are sure ways to kill any relationship. I do not place a curfew on my wife when she goes to visit her friends for their Thai food parties and she does not complain when I am playing with my flight simulator or surfing the internet/hotforwords.
4. Jeorney mentioned unrealistic expectations and one such is to expect a partner to think, feel and act the same way that you do. During the first couple of years of my marriage, I was not aware of this until I read a book by John Grey called ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’. It is fashionable to dismiss this book as non-scientific, populist rubbish but it’s easy to scoff; ask the one who scoffs if they have applied the information and usually they will say, “of course not.” What validation, then, do such remarks have?
All I can say is that it helped me to understand my wife, so I no longer get irritated with, for example, her ‘back-seat driving’. I now realise that it’s her way of being helpful and contributing to our partnership.
Further, I can avow that we have not had a row or a major disagreement since I read the book, so I commend it to everyone.
Don’t wed for looks, they fade and the parts sag.
Don’t wed to satisfy a tingle in your pants.
Don’t wed to enhance status.
Don’t wed for money.
Don’t wed with hidden agendas.
Don’t wed for simple companionship, get a dog.
To raise a family is a good reason, but what after the raising?
You wed for a true commitment to each other, before God, with the intent on following thru on that commitment.
Choose wisely, stay true.
If you can’t, or won’t, then don’t.
It’s the blood sucking gold diggers that scare me. There like vampires. You don’t know until it’s too late. I’ve been bitten way to many times. Next time I’ll just throw them on to my parents. They can suck them dry for all I care. Of course if they are like ticks then they will explode. That should be fun to watch!
“One, sir
Two, sir
Three, sir
Four, sir
Five, sir”
BTW, when you type a smiley, you have to leave a space after the text and before the smiley or it won’t be converted into a smiley by WP. Even if you click a smiley, you must not remove the space manually or the same thing will happen.
Yes you do! I told you to vote for Marina and I know very well that you did. So you do follow orders. heheh. Anyway if you didn’t follow mine I know you would follow Marina’s orders to the Tee without question.
“Where did the phrase to the tee come from?”
I could explain it to a T for you but I would rather have Marina investigate it. What do you say? Let’s put Marina on the job. I did find a post that it was first used back in 1889 from a book called “Three Men in a Boat”.
Well if you see the time I wrote the comment and the fact that I had been up for several hours, one would guess a mistake would come about from time to time. I think I stayed up for 26 hours that day. What scares me the most is that I hope a minor mistake like that does not cause any injury or loss of life. I’m a bit hard on myself than I should be when I make mistakes. I think it’s a good idea to be a bit hard on ones self. Just as long as it doesn’t get to extreme and causes health issues.
I know what you’re talking about… I’ve been training for exams, and stayed up a lot of nights.
So now, I can say that I’m jet lagged, without ever having to ride a jet!
Right now it’s 3:25 AM, and I’ve just woke up!
Capt. don’t be hard on yourself, you know I was just teasing you. I love doing that to my friends, it keeps them on their toes around me.
OK, now I’m going to try to force myself to sleep, because I can’t keep this up. My biorythm is already way too distort.
Yes, I am very hard on myself when I make a mistake that I know I could have corrected before hand. For the day someone gets injured or dies from one of my mistakes I will pay the ultimate price. To live with that mistake for the rest of ones life…………..
I’m currently now an instructor. Which I’m no longer in direct responsibly of the operations of vessels, but now have to make sure I train the future captains to be aware of their situations when piloting their vessels. I feel like I’m saving lives by way of remote control or autonomously.
Homework: What do I think about the idea of getting married?
Well that’s a big subject for me. Well first off I would love to have the chance to get married. I have ideas in my head of what I could do for a wedding. Former relationships I’ve had, the ladies told me that I would make a great husband. Some have said they would marry me for on of my pet peeves of putting the toilet seat down. On admired me for my level of commitment to be faithful and that I make effort to spice up the relationship when things get bland. Surprisingly, that had turn one away.
With all that said I don’t think I would ever get married. I have seen what monsters people become after getting married. I’m not talking about the occasional argument. That’s normal. I see people change into something almost completely different from their normal self. Even my best friend was dating a woman for 4 years. They finally tied the knot and a year later they got a divorce. He is scarred from the experience. I think 70% of my family in law has ended up in divorce. Including my parents. I think what’s happening is when couples get married they stop doing the pursuing the relationship. The get comfortable. They treat the marriage like that ‘honey do’ job that never gets done. I see this as a big mistake.
I’m still open to the idea of marriage but now I don’t really care if I ever do or not. From what I have seen, I think the safest bet would be never to get married for I think it would fail the relationship. I would just be happy to have an intelligent life long best friend of the opposite sex. Someone to share life experiences with. I just hope I don’t run into another high maintenance chick.
If I can bundle up some theories, starting with women have a more sensitive sense of smell than men, generally, and much of their sexual attraction to a mate is in the olfactory system.
Scent being important for both sexes. Okay so far, so the pill… substantially changes the olfactory system, in that a woman’s
sense of smell changes. So when a couple is courting, the woman might be on the pill to prevent pregnancy. After the marriage, she might go off the pill. When she does such a thing,
her mate smells differently. He doesn’t smell like the man she married. Thus, an increase in the divorce rate. One hell of a depressing theory, eh?
I just got back from the Conference where my speech this afternoon was received very well, I probably will be invited to speak again at the 2010 Conference in Southern California. After the Awards Dinner, I danced with Linda and Cathy until the band quit at 11:30 PM. My upper thighs are sore now, because I was dancing with short women. Linda’s 5′, 4″ and Cathy’s 5′, 2″.
I don’t think marriage would be a gamble with you because you would only marry when you truly and deeply love someone (like me). Then our mutual love would overcome all of life’s obstacles. The ancient Latin phrase is “Amor vincit omni”, or “Love conquers all.” So our marriage would be no gamble, and since you’re taller, my legs won’t hurt as much after we dance together!
seesixcm6
Hello Everyone,
Did you notice that Marina’s photo is now in the number one position on the Sexy Geek voting site?
Marina is leading with 1,853 UP votes.
That is awesome. You guys and gals rawk!!!
In terms of combined votes (Up votes minus Down votes),
Marina has 2,215 votes to go to take that lead. Lets see of we can make that happen by Valentine’s Day.
Please vote every day for Marina at the link above in the red dotted box below the video. Thank you to all of you!!!
Wedding
I WANNABE TEACHERS PET!!!! MARINA MA
RRY ME!!!! 
Should have signed up for this class sooner…Well, better late than never….
Hot Patootie, Bless My Soul! I’ve just imagined the perfect marriage!
You, the Mingle-r; and I, the Mixer (of course, you can put anyone you want in there instead of “I” and it’ll be wonderful; but ‘we [miracle]-men gotta dream, don’t we?’
)
Hwk: I’m not opposed to marriage, but, really, I don’t know you
“Marriages” and “Weddings” are different animals (in adjoining cages). A Wedding is essentially the announcement (as far-and-wide as you can tell it) that the [spouse]s spend all their [chip]s in a [bet] on the [success] of the [marriage].
Lady Orlova, I here ‘declare’ (feeling Shakespearian in a Napoleonic way
) that I would gladly spend all my chips in a bet on your relationship with whoever is lucky enough to be chosen by you!
I thus add my name to the wide-wide-[wide] selection you might choose-from (if you haven’t chosen ‘definitely not MythMan’ already!) and–whatever you decide–will continue to serve gladly.
Natasha Bedingfield: Single
No, Dude! Too SPAMmy! at least put in something like, ‘That sounds like the inspiration for Natasha Bedingfield’s song “Single”‘ (though the ‘Single’-video wasn’t up, but she looked enough like-Our-Lady that I couldn’t help but go on to listen to “Soulmate”–which sounded right–and to link to THAT song).
Natasha Bedingfield looks so much like Our Lady that I’m inspired to review a few more of her selections and maybe add them to my profile-playlist at MySpace.
I hear you mythman. You got my thought! thanks
grooving the Schooling…HotForWords rules!!!
(In case the SPAM to which I replied–a plain-ol` link to Natasha Bedingfield’s “Single”–gets justly erased, here’s the reply:)
No, Dude! Too SPAMmy! at least put in something like, ‘That sounds like the inspiration for Natasha Bedingfield’s song “Single”‘ (though the ‘Single’-video wasn’t up, but she looked enough like-Our-Lady that I couldn’t help but go on to listen to “Soulmate”–which sounded right–and to link to THAT song).
Natasha Bedingfield looks so much like Our Lady that I’m inspired to review a few more of her selections and maybe add them to my profile-playlist at MySpace.
The idea of getting married is great, only if there was a girl like you around here…
You know most of them are either beauriful, either smart.
It is almost impossible to find a girl who encompass both… a girl like you
I promise to wait for you,or stay single.
Please do not let Gorby play with guns. He may damage some very valuable goods!
Jimj.
I promise to wait for you,or stay single.
Please do not let Gorby play with guns. He may damage some very valuable goods!
Jimj.
Marriage had never crossed my mind until I saw you reciting the origin of the word wedding. Wow, intelligence and mischevious beauty, what a great combo! Keep up the good work!!!
I thought it was going to have to do with the base GAM- meaning marriage or union.
Weddings are a gamble but when you win, you win big. We have our 30th anniversary coming up and I’m starting to think I might risk getting a tattoo with my wife’s name!
Congratulations.
thats better
whats that funny little dohickey over in the recent posts?
what’s with the scary music at the end ?
Marina placed sinister, menacing music at the end of this video. She is right that marriage is a pledge to love only the one she has chosen, so the music choice must mean that Marina will always be true to her pledge. Therefore, she is an ideal person to marry.
I think Marina is very serious about marriage. Too bad Im not wealthy enough, don’t speak Russian well, nor would I travel very well in Russia. 
In Marina’s “clown” video, there’s a scene in which Marina screams and hides under the bed covers. Someone wrote, “I hope that’s not Marina on her wedding night!”
I would love to travel to Russia.
But, seriously floks, I have always wanted to travel to the “Russian sphere.” Perhaps, when I finish this degree in 2011, Lady M could me to get a teaching job.
With all the talk about the (“Fairness Doctrine”) and talk radio; what is the (Fairness Doctrine). Love is Intellectualism. Some people make more mistakes for their children, than do others. Empathy
Cry 
civility can be silly 
Speaking of the Retartid Policeman… well, I was, down there… I just noticed that the Bad Cop video is now unflagged. Whoo! Whoo! for small miracles. That is an awesome HotForWords video; very close up and personal;
a must see.
Oh yeah, if you want to know my favorite HotForWords videos, they are shown here.
Pk The bottom two links don’t go where they are suppose to go or am I missing something here
Hey thanks Mike, the 2nd link, which is the long one with the words Bad Cop in it, I messed up. It should have been the following link. I left HTTP empty by assident.
Bad Cop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEPhYQY-pW4
The last link with “favorite HotForWord videos” goes to Forum page called “YT-Music-and-Videos”. Hover your cursor over that link and you’ll see it in status bar. When you click on that link it goes to my posting on that page. It may take a few seconds for that page to load.
Married? Yaw, Married!
Where does the phrase [(Mine/his/their) Turn] come from, “It’s his go” makes sense… but “it’s John’s Turn” makes no sense at all!!!
I would like to request the word [toast] as it has many different meanings.
it could mean, to make a toast to something.
it could mean, to toast or cook something.
and it could also be the food, toast.
please marina, i’d love for you to post this word for me.
[Toastmaster]
Being divorced 5 years, you can guess my take on marriage!
Welcome mevtcc!
You gonna try it again a few more times every five years until you get it right? Am I close?
Close! I’ll reverse my current trend and be married for five years and then divorced for thirteen! I knew that the thirteenth would get the best of me…or worst…LOL! Now I have [triskaidekaphobia]. Marina could look into that word. Sorry for the word request, but seemed appropriate for the moment!
Uhm I’ve been wondering where my name really comes from [MiMi] since it seems to be a really popular name and I can find at least 1 person from each country (Algeria, France, US, Brazil, Mexico, Spain, Vietnam, China, Australia, Germany, Austria…) that has the same name.
How about the origin or why tin tinn is repeated in the same word … [tintinnabulation]
You guys need to click on the Jockey underwear add and look around a few minutes so Marina will get credit for the viewing of the add. I didn’t look so I don’t know whats there.
Hey! you didn’t “walk the talk” — so don’t expect me to click on the ad and look around. And, since I haven’t looked, I am now dying of curiosity to know in detail what’s underneath there. ???
Here’s a game about messing with Sasquatch. Click on the sign post to go to different parks.
http://www.messinwithsasquatch.com/
Howdy, folks!
Been very busy, so short and sweet: Wonderful lesson! Man, I love you, Marina!
Take care, everyone. Keep voting!
Always.
Err … I have news for you … Marina is a woman.
Or do you know something that I don’t?
I didn’t see any sign of an Adams apple so I think you are right Bob, but, you know the old proverbial but, you can’t always go by not seeing an Adams apple. So I have no doubts she is all woman.
test
Love is a gift from God. Falling in love is a serious form of insanity. Being in love is not a choice, not a thing we have conscious control over. Promising to love another forever is an exercise in futility and self-delusion. So is promising to still love another next week.
What is the definition and the origin of the term “hatchet faced”? Thanks.
Go to Oregon and look at the women there.
If you don’t like to gamble, then you are probbly the one to marry. Those who are sure from the start. They will most likely be the ones to value love and marriage and do everything they can to make it work. If two are this same way, I think the chances of it working are very ,very good. But if one is only half-hearted about love, it is easily broken. Because they just do not care enough.And love will be tested many times and ways. I have ever been married because maybe I haven’t found someoone who truly values this love above all.. It may sound corny in today’s cinical world, but those who know it, hold the most valuable thing of all in their little hands. Fools will never understand.
A fool for love? It is like jumping off the sofa trusting the one you love will always catch you. Don’t gamble and have your heart broken. Wait for your prince charming, Marina. And the real love…
You have a misspelled word. “Sofa” should be spelled “Eiffle Tower.”
Uh, that’s Eiffel. Hey, as long as we’re bagging on spelling, remember what Jesus of Nazareth (not the band) said: “Be ye ever so perfect.”
Unless of course it was a typo of “piffle” which also makes perfect sense. See ya around the campus.
Hi teach, where did the word cocktail come from? [cocktail] Thank you!
i ve got drunk now
より多くの為、お願いします。
Konbanwa Hitoshi,
Welcome back!
Evan
thank you for remembering me, Evan. i didnt post comments for several days, though.
.
Tragic fact: One consequence of Chinese culture destroying the spirit of women into being slaves (e.g., tying up feet of baby girls for several years so that the feet remain tiny) — recent (Jan 12, 09) story of 107 year old Chinese woman seeking first husband: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090112/wl_nm/us_china_bride_centenarian
–Hs4Mm
Before a man gets married, he’d better understand The Women’s Rules
Men’s Rules
As this is the “inside” time of year for sports on tv, sleeping in late, etc…
These are our rules! Please note … these are all numbered “1″ ON
PURPOSE!
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down.
1. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present, yet again!
1. Sometimes, we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
1. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and NASCAR.
1. Sunday = sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!
1. We don’t remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar.
Remind us frequently beforehand.
1. Most guys own three pairs of shoes – tops. What makes you think we’d be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
1. Yes and No, are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Check your oil! Please.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If something we said could be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it’s genetic.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
1. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors
, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. I’m in shape. – ROUND is a shape
Perfect !
Oh I remember reading this one years ago! Thanks John for bringing it back. Now if only the ladies would read this and learn from it, we would get a long much better.
See pedanticKarl’s comment about 3 comments down, So it could be debatable as to if we would get along much better
I like number 1.
I agree, number 1 was definitely the best!
Good list there.
ROFLMAO! Thanks, John!
Hey Evan,
As you may know;
Men may rule the World, but,
Women rule the Universe.
And, for the guys, here is a refresher course in
Women’s Dictionary
Women’s Dictionary 2
http://www.hotforwords.com/2007/09/10/mens-dictionary/
That just twisted my mind all to hell! On the first dictionary Marina posted to the right stating it’s a joke. I wonder “Is it really?” The second dictionary she doesn’t claim that it’s a joke or not.
This all has me saying ” I drank what? ” It also leaves me very confused, embarrassed, and mostly lost. This also takes language between the sexes to a whole new level for me. I see it puts words in a different light. Words towards and from women are no longer black and white in their meaning but in a gray area that depends on their mood or feeling at the time.
Now I’m very paranoid about what I say. I even fear talking to my sister. This is just messed me up. I have complete doubt of anything I hear or said that what was said was understood. I feel like a turtle and need to climb back into my shell in fear that I’m going to be shot in my sleep. You think I’m kidding?…….
Hi CJ,
Now you know what it feels like being married!
Yeah. It amazes me how people make it work. I’ve seen more failures than successes. I do find the ones who can make it work are very flexible people. Those kind of people are very rare now days.
yes it’s staggering at times
Or get the womans dictionary that Marina talks about in a couple of her videos.
Advice from MOM on marriage:
“Don’t marry a woman who loves Jesus more than you; you’ll always suffer from the comparisons.”
Oh yeah, another blast from Mom:
“How would you feel if your DAUGHTERS were doing what that Russian woman is doing, sitting on her bed in a low-cut dress flirting with men??!!” I didn’t dare tell her I’d be proud of their scholarship and entrepreneurship.
Good thing I didn’t show her my “teacher’s pet” award (in “scrumtrilescent”); it would have fried her brain!
Hey Evan,
If I didn’t congratulate you before, I wish to congratulate you on being Teacher’s Pet back in Nov 20, 2008. Dang, it seems like that just happened yesterday.
Here is Marina’s awesome video on Scrumtrilescent again for your review.
Dang, I love that video, I think it’s my favorite.
Wait a minute, all 385 videos are my favorites.
Thanks, PK, that was a rush!
Yeah, I keep thinking I got that award for my homework in “Promiscuous”
How men talk to women
LOL!
You’ve definitely learned something Evan.
Another variant is to replace the “hmm hmm” by I understand.
Hey, speaking of understand,
here is what Marina says about Understand.
It’s a classic.
Good punch PK. Didn’t see it before. I guess it takes me by surprise.
Wow.. talk about cleavage in that video! Damn!
DAMN STRAIGHT!!!
Yes, we’d all like to be among it.
Definitely not underdeveloped.
I must have missed that.
I was looking at the eyes.
Let me check that again.
Wow!!! Like the Retartid Policeman said, “Boobies!”
Dang, I’ll have to have you around more often to point those things out.
Ohhhh, and speaking of “Boobies”,
did you know Marina did this awesome video lesson
on, you guessed it, Booby. Check it out, it’s another classic HotForWords video.
I miss the good ole days or videos. Not saying the ones you make today aren’t great
{oh I better hush while I'm ahead. I made such a boob out of myself}You Would think we would be use to seeing it by now, Right? Well on second thought i think I’ll just shut up about it. For now.
I said the same thing. I still have not heard a word you said in that lesson. Which begs the question. What was the
Ummm…Marina, are you abashed or bragging?
NASCAR Word Requests
[Caution]
[Marbles]
[Piston]
[Pit]
[LUCKY DOG]
[BOOGITTY BOOGITTY BOOGITTY]
[BUMP DRAFT]
[LOOSE vs. TIGHT]
[DARLINGTON STRIPE]
I am for weddings and marriage myself as long as you know it is the right person for you of course.
I love the video annotations @0:28 into the video.
The left video annotation is the wonderful video that Marina made of the the origin of the word Casino, which was made on July 30, 2007.
Wow, time sure flies when you’re having fun.
.
Some other trivia about this video:
I tried to figure out whether “Las Vegas Edition” (at :23) referred to the lesson having reference to Las Vegas (gambling, elopement etc.) or to the lesson having been made while in Las Vegas. For all I can tell, this lesson could have been made in LA.
Also, the ~7 seconds of introduction are NOT a copy of the same content at 1:30!
And, at about 0:07, I like that she used the word “phee” (rather than “meh” — “meh” is so phee
)!
–Hs4Mm
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Hey hs4mm,
Interesting comment about the “phee” vs. “meh”
Did you know Marina made a video lesson on the word “meh”? I didn’t see any of your comments on that video, so I presume that you joined us here after that video was made?
Check out the “meh” video.
It’s awesome.
.
I have seen the meh video; in fact, that is where I heard the word for the first time; and have not head the word elsewhere. I don’t like that word (“meh”) because it comes across as a cheap rip-off of the word “nah” — it is a lame attempt at originality.
–Hs4Mm
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PS to reply about meh — should have said something about phee: Phee evokes the act of spiting at something in disgust or contempt.
News Flash: Mr & Mrs Potato Head will be in a Super Bowl commercial.Link here to 14 sec ad
Cool Dude, I hope you and her don’t get diced or mashed.
Hey, that’s kinda cool!
Teacher –
I was married once, and tell everyone (ripping off a joke I heard somewhere) that “Instead of marrying again, I’ll just find a woman I hate, and buy her a house”…
You are so funny!
[Qaiser]
Easy…that’s what the Arabs called the King of Germany!
King of Germany or Roman King…
I Heared that Roman Emporers Called Qaiser……
hey long time no see your videos Marina
. As always, great video…
About getting married? mmm… nah… first i need a girlfriend haha… hoping the Lord give me a beautiful girl… someone like you…
still believing marriage is good… even when you try to scare the people with that music at the end of the video
bytes
Marina, if you will marry me, I will build you a big house in the Arbat and make you Princess of the Apocalypse!
(see Marina Orlova in the two characters that follow)
The business day was coming to an end at the U.S. Embassy in Moscow on Friday, October 31, 2020. Ambassador Helene Linder had already left the consular building for her residence, Spaso House, to prepare for a formal dinner starting at 6:30 at the German Ambassador‘s lovely residence at 46 Povarskaya. At 4:12, her chief of staff Bill Lambourne was still in the office. He was surprised to receive notice from the Embassy’s front reception desk that there was a phone call for the Ambassador’s office from the office of the Russian Foreign Minister, Dimetri Korlova (*******1). Lambourne glanced at his desk phone to make sure that the Embassy’s telephone recording system “capture” light was on for Line 2 and directed the receptionist to switch the call there. Then he took a deep breath, punched the line and greeted the caller in customary Russian, “Slushiyu, eta Bill Lambourne,” knowing full well that whomever was on the other end would know him by name. As he expected, the caller was his equal in the minister’s office, Staff Director Marina Orlovakov(*********2). Very professionally, in perfect English, the beautiful blonde said, “Mr. Lambourne, good day. The minister formally requests Ambassador Linder to be at his office at 10am tomorrow morning, to review new evidence regarding the assassination of President Palmer. The Minister would like to meet only with Mrs. Linder.”
Unclassified
HAIPE v1.35 encryption
Copyright 2009, John Guthrie
The next morning, at 10 am Moscow, 200 miles over Sri Lanka the warhead deployment bus undocks from the Chinese space station. By the time the meeting is complete between Linder and Korlova, a new state of war- beyond hot or cold- will exist on Earth. It’s Halloween in America as the seven seals are broken and the ghosts arise from the depths of the Earth under Wyoming. It’s time for Apocalypse, News at 11. I wrote Dick Cheney last week and told him he’s in the book. I got a letter and a photo back. Arf Arf!
Our Homo Erectus ancestors didn’t need a marriage license and neither do I,,far as I know all the juicy stuff works the same as 200,000ya.
If it ain’t broke,don’t fix it.
Not necessarily related…
Normal people believe that if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Engineers believe that if it ain’t broke, it doesn’t have enough features yet.
And from the same topic, we have:
To the optimist, the glass is half full.
To the pessimist, the glass is half-empty.
To the engineer, the glass is twice as big as it needs to be.
Would you like to know more?
wasn’t it Red Green that said “If it ain’t broke,,You’re not tryin”?
Yup! He also said “If the women don’t find you handsome, at least let ‘em find you handy”
(duct tape -the handyman’s secret friend)
If it ain’t broke, fix it ’til it is!
Understanding Engineers
Take 1
Two engineering students were walking across campus when one said,
“Where did you get such a great bike?”
The second engineer replied, “Well, I was walking along yesterday
minding my own business when a beautiful woman rode up on this bike.
She took one look at me, threw the bike to the ground, took off all
her clothes and said to me, ‘Take what you want’ , so I did.”
The second engineer nodded approvingly.
“Good choice; the clothes probably wouldn’t have fit.”
Take 2
What is the difference between Mechanical Engineers and Civil Engineers?
Mechanical Engineers build weapons and Civil Engineers build targets.
Take 3
Three engineering students were gathered together discussing the possible designers of the human body. One said, “It was a mechanical engineer. Just look at all the joints.”
Another said, “No, it was an electrical engineer. The nervous system has many thousands of electrical connections.”
The last one said, “Actually it must have been a civil engineer. Who else would run a toxic waste pipeline through a recreational area?”
Take 4
An architect, an artist and an engineer were discussing whether it was better to spend time with the wife or a mistress. The architect said he enjoyed time with his wife, building a solid foundation for an enduring relationship. The artist said he enjoyed time with his mistress, because the passion and mystery he found there. The engineer said, “I like both.”
“Both?”
Engineer: “Yeah. If you have a wife and a mistress, they will each assume you are spending time with the other woman, and you can go to the lab and get some work done.”
Take 5
An engineer was crossing a road one-day when a frog called out to him and said, “If you kiss me, I’ll turn into a beautiful princess.” He bent over, picked up the frog and put it in his pocket.
The frog spoke up again and said, “If you kiss me and turn me back into a beautiful princess, I will stay with you for one week.” The engineer took the frog out of his pocket, smiled at it and returned it to the pocket.
The frog then cried out, “If you kiss me and turn me back into a princess, I’ll stay with you and do ANYTHING you want.” Again the engineer took the frog out, smiled at it and put it back into his pocket.
Finally, the frog asked, “What is the matter? I’ve told you I’m a beautiful princess and that I’ll stay with you for a week and do anything you want. Why won’t you kiss me?” The engineer said, “Look, I’m an engineer. I don’t have time for a girl friend, but a talking frog, now that’s cool.”
I found them especially funny since I’m training to become an engineer.
(One for each “Take”)
5x
hehe erect
It was cool way back then. Just grab one by the hair and drag her home. When your done with her feed her to the T-Rex.
You can still do that today,but,Ya gotta pick the right ones.
I’ve known a few that would eat T-Rex! Then pick Her teeth with the bones!
Never thought I’d see this song in a video. it’s great!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlRXQEA0yj0
That was good Tyrant I LMAO. I haven’t heard that song since I was a teen.
I just now went to youtube and tripped back in time with some old videos,even a july 2008 interview with grace slick.
He he,,was waiting for a DIY drain fix to cure. Replacement pending.
It’s been raining here for a couple of days, but still in the 60’s (F°) and this is expected to continue until Monday. The sunny high-pressure bliss of last week held off the rains and there may be a repeat pattern soon. It is being said that this year may turn out to be the biggest drought year in CA history. Folsom Lake is down to 22%, which is where we get our water.
I propose that all of you that are freezing simply box up your snow and ice and ship it here, where our turrible, turrible heat will melt it, filling our rivers once again. Also this will require USPS to hire more mail staff, thus stimulating the economy and ending the recession. There, it’s all solved. What’s the big problem?
I was looking at a globe on a desk and realized that Sacramento is downhill from Canada. This got me to thinking that some sort of ramp could be built to slide the snow down to your area… much like you see on the back of cement trucks… just a lot bigger! We could get those Canucks build it in central Canada and have both eastern and western Canadians pitch in.
It stopped raining last night. Today it’s overcast, so the sooner you can “ramp up*” this project, the better.
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*Or is it “ramp down.”
Hey! The sun just came out! Better get that snow and ice coming on the double.
There’s an ice shelf(Wilkins or sumthin) gonna fall off the antarctic soon,maybe captain jack will hook up and tow it to Sacto?!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8v55T_BhmlA
It seems most of you have been divorced and remarried . Acting on impulse ?
No, it’s called ["narcissism,"] a fancy Greek-mythology word for “me first.” Each person thinks his or her desires are more important than the other person or the relationship.
Fatbuffalo, maybe you could tell us about Chinese marriages. I understand your divorce rate is quite low. If so, why do Chinese couples stay together more than Americans?
hmm , maybe its our customs .Or moral values . Or its a traditional thing , passed down by generations . conservative perhaps . But basically once we get married we just stick together
In all far eastern countries, the family is the mainstay of society. Whereas in the West people get married and leave home to set up on their own, in the East the family unit is a much more important part of life and traditionally, families are much more integrated.
Maybe this has something to do with your question. Family pressures and traditional values are stronger glue than isolated, self centred couples.
Not me Fatbuffalo, I have stayed married to the same lady for 30 years.
WORD REQUEST OF [SOLES]
Been there, done that, twice. I think marriage is an outdated religious institution. There is no reason why two people can’t give there selves to each other without all the legal mumbo jumbo!
you mean marriage is just having the luxury to call themselves husband and wife
Marriage is a good thing; it can only go bad because of the individuals involved.
There are no perfect marriages because there are no perfect people. When that is recognized by each spouse and the willingness by both to confess one’s failings is accompanied by continual willingness to forgive and adapt, then a marriage is successful.
That must be why my marriage is so successful. Mrs. Somebody tells me everyday that I am not perfect.
Your wife must be some kin to mine.
Thanks Marina for explaining my past.
I live in Las Vegas and I have gambled 3 times, and lost 3 times..
Marina, I am ready to gamble again.
Marina, would you be my wife?
I’ve thought about getting married many times. A few times I didn’t think the gal I was with would make a good mother for children.
Also, my doctor told me I have a split personality. So I asked him what kind? He said banana. I asked what he thought I should do about it? I think he said, “take it easy on Sundays! or something like that”
sounds like we have been spending too much time around CK
phrase request [until the fat lady sings]
The sterotypical opera always has as one of its characters a fat lady playing the part of a female Viking, wearing the war hat with horns, etc. This character has to sing at some point, so until she does, obviously, the opera cannot be complete. The phrase means that some process is not complete until some necessary event occurs. It is more a wisecrack than anything else.
Question: Why can’t Marina play the fat lady in an opera?
Answer: She can’t sing.
(Ooohh, am I going to get into trouble.
)
She can’t dance either.
OK CK, see you in detention!
She’s not fat enough
But, she don’t sweat much fer a fat girl.
{save me a window seat.}
I bet if you stepped on her tootsies she would make a good Alto.
the fat lady sings
the fat ladies sing
What’s the biggest number written in only one word?
A googolplex ?
Right, and bigger than that would be only infinity ∞
What about googloplexes? No? It infers more than one number? I see.
What about GOOGLOPLEX,,,looks bigger to Me.
Good logic tryant!
GOOGOLPLEX even bigger, by a tad
whAT IS THE origin of the word ORGASM.
I don’t want to get Married, I want to enjoy my life the it is.
samuels3d.
Marina,
Your life is focused on career objectives and with that you probably need a lot of peace and simplicity at home to achieve your goals.
Wait a couple years when you are in your early 30’s before considering any form of “gamble” in the committed relationship dept.
Maybe your more suited to be a spinster.
What? A new age Miss Marple?
Are [Saskatoons] toony or Sassy, or they from [Saskatoon], Saskatchewan?
I BET you can’t solve the word [SASKATOON] Marina!
Why do Canadians called a gas can a [Gerry can]?
Read the whole story. Naturally, it took the U.S. War Department to screw up a good thing.
It is called a “Jerrycan” or Gerrycan” because the design was taken from the Germans during World War II. “Jerry” was a slang name for Germans during the war.
I have no idea why I knew that.
thanks man
Why do people from Saskatchewan call a Hoodie a [Bunnyhug]?
I would like to request a word [Bunnyhug]
What else would you wear when trying to catch a Sasquach?
You could feed him some
Jack Links beef jerky.
Are you proposing, Marina?
Anyway, I was thinking about the word [fascination]. Does it have any relation to the words fascism and nation?
I just saw a video on YT that had an pop-up ad for itunes and a link to itunes for the song they used in the vid.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XkgcohULjY
I’ve never seen that before! …now somebodys thinkin’!
Heres the vid
I have seen them PageDoll. I thought they would be a free download, but after I clicked on it they wanted 99 cents for the song.
Beautiful video! Thank you.
Homework: I would love to be married, but it just hasn’t happened yet, and am quite content in quiet solitude should that be my lot as well.
Come on Lads and Lasses we need more pictures on ChemiKals photo site. Don’t be ashamed of who you are we want turn you in if your wanted
http://www.hotforwords.com/forums/topic/show-your-face
Thanks to Chemikal for intorducing this and to you for pointing it out; added three.
Having covered engagement and wedding perhaps this is the right time to explain [paraphernalia], if this won’t get you arrested.
In some places, just one phernalia will get you into trouble.
Yuk yuk
well, as a divorcée, i’m probably not the right person to ask…
but i’m all for marriage…two hearts beating as one, joined not just physically, but soulfully…yep…i like it…but it would have to be like this:
If questioning would make us wise
No eyes would ever gaze in eyes;
If all our tale were told in speech
No mouths would wander each to each.
Were spirits free from mortal mesh
And love not bound in hearts of flesh
No aching would yearn to meet
And find their ecstasy complete.
For who is there that lives and knows
The secret powers by which he grows?
Were knowledge all, what were our need
To thrill and faint and sweetly bleed?
Then seek not, sweet, the If and Why
I love you now until I die:
For I must love because I live
And life in me is what you give. – Because She Would Ask Me Why I Loved Her – Christopher Brennan
now tell me that is NOT the hottest piece of poetry you’ve ever read…
Where’s a “Thumbs Up” smiley when you need one?
I like the idea of getting married, but have not found someone who likes the idea of wedding me.
Marina,
Who is watching Gorby while you are off having fun in Las Vegas?
Word Request [ TOAST ]
[ TOAST ] [ TOAST ]
I’m with Che Volay a few comments below. Why does it mean to raise a glass to someone or something and is also a crispy peice of bread?
Peanut butter(chunky) and blueberry jam on TOAST with a huge glass of whole milk, now thats a marriage made in heaven!
How do you like your Toast?
I 3rd that request! I love cheese toast!
I like my toast all bent out of shape with mustard, fried onions and a 100% pure beef hotdog wiener… if not that, then… buttered and topped off with a poached egg, steamed asparagus tips and some hollandaise sauce.
I requested that also a while back, so I’ll just retype it in the correct form [toast]
Thanks for bringing it to the surface again.
I like my toast carbonized lightly
And i second your request
I was wondering [why words like "sugar" and "sure" are pronounced "Shugar" and "sher" Instead of "soo gar" and "soo er" ?]
The spelling of [sugar] may be a remnant of its original pronunciation, as-sukar (from Arabic, which may have come to English via the Spanish azúcar.) I.e. it used to be pronounced “s” and not “sh”.
["Sure"] may have come from the French “sûr,” so that again, the English spelling may reflect its earlier French pronunciation.
Maybe Bob will come by later and give us some puns on “sugar, sure” & related words. Right now I’m not in the mood.
Thanks !
Hi Marina
I’ve always wondered about the origins of these two words.[although) as in "I'd love to wed, [although] I’m already married.” And [unless] as in “let’s go get married tomorrow, [unless] you’ve changed your mind.”
you’re way more fun than webster’s dictionary!
Im to young for wedding! xoxo
But some day i will wed!
marina nice vid!
Friends with Benefits Wedding
testa
testb
testc
testd
teste
Just test…tset tsuj
James it only seems to happen if you comment to some one at the very bottom. I commented to you at the bottom and it made a new comment below yours. Weird.
HW: Nah, I don’t like to gamble!
:D:D
I would like to get married about the same time as Marina will. Since she is my role model! And if possible, on the same day, and to each other.
I’d like to stay single for as long as possible, and then if a relationship truly works after a number of years, with no giddy emotions I would propose. I think it’s the surest and safest way to a happy marriage.
Marina, I need some advice…. When do you think the best time would be for me to upload a new video? and also, slightly off track… What does proto mean (as in proto germanic) (its not a word request by the way I just wondered)
proto means before.. in other words it happened before Germanic.
As for uploading videos.. I think any time is good.. I haven’t nailed down the proper time yet.. as mornings and nights seem to work fine for me.
I meant when do you think the best time would be as in views comments etc.
What’s with the scary impending-doom music in the end ? Is marriage that scary ?
I’m not really into marriage as M said the rate of divorce is high . Money scamming perhaps ?
Congratulations Marina, you’re number one!
http://wired.reddit.com/sexygeeks_2008/?s=top
Woah !!!
Quite a prosperous Chinese New Year this is
新年好。 我祝願您繁榮。
Selamat Tahun Baru.
Hey Bob, don’t you need an awfully big keyboard for Chinese?
I don’t know if Jack or PK or Doug has mentioned it, but Marina is now number one over Phil De Franco. She’s number one Yay. So like jack said earlier vote vote vote so we can keep her that way.
I just saw that as well, when I voted 5 minutes ago
I didn’t know! Wow! We did it! The students of HFW kick ass!
Thanks Marina for the beautiful picture. I hope you get a lot of use from the tool kit.
For some ODD reason, the original video has been labeled private, so I found a Spanish translated one instead:
Recieving the Lord’s blessing…
Nice one teacher. The idea of getting married? Pffff.. Oh boy. Makes me think of running like hell, running away as fast as a frightened rabbit in front of a full pack of sharp-toothed greyhounds. But! Women and children first! That’s the implacable law of gentlemanhood.
Be British, boys, be British!
- Captain Edward John Smith, RMS Titanic, before dawn, 15 April 1912.
International Sign for Marriage
Preach it brother!
So true so true. The bank doesn’t even recognize my signature anymore.
And that is why i’m not going to get married
Miss Marina,I would like to no the origin of the phrase [head over heels].
Thank You
I’m sorry to pitch something that Ms.Marina has already finished,things can get pretty hectic over here and,as a result,things become easier to miss.
http://www.hotforwords.com/2008/02/08/im-head-over-heels/
Since only the author of a replied-to msg gets the E-mail notification, there should be some way to direct the notification, say, if you run out of reply levels. For example, if B wishes to reply to A, but there is no
Replybutton to A’s msg, B could do this by beginning the reply with a code: ((A)). This would direct the notification to A, regardless of who the reply would normally go to. This redirect could be instead of or in addition to the latter. Is there any way to do this now, or would a change to WP be required? What do you all think?Capman, if you don’t mind, please read this.
I see what you mean CK. There is no way to do a direct comment to the person’s last comment unless you go to a comment that hasn’t anything to do with the last comment. Ok does that make sense? Any way only M could answer that question or if the last person that made a comment to your could add in another comment to his so there would be another reply button. But one would have to figure if no more comments could be added he could do the edit function before the timer runs out. Maybe that would help. I think I have seen M do this in the past.
Test reply
test reply 2
test reply 3
reply to your test 3 comment
test 4
test 5
The TAs used to be able to do a Nestled comment to a persons comment that didn’t have a reply button. But it was taken away I guess when the new 5 tier replies were added. Or it may have been something to do with the new version of Word Press. I miss being able to help people that do not have a reply button. Jack may be the only one that has that level of access.
test reply 1
test rep 2
test 3
>kki
Nope I can’t go any further that you Cap. Can’t even do it on th e backend. It drops the baby out of the nest and it falls all the way down to the bottom of this post. See for your self. Press your “End” key.
Which is all good anyways. Keeps the site looking better. It would be best to start a new comment with a block quote of the last comment and start anew.
IMHO.
I agree Jack I just forgot to inform CK of that option. I remember we had this quorum before as it distorts the site on IE6. Plus the comments would look like a slender comment.
Ok I am illiterate what does IMHO mean
In My Humble Opinion (google for “acronym:imho”). HTH
(Have To Hurry, and also Hope That Helps 
)
Thanks hs4mm.
I thought about that same thing but quickly debunked it for you can’t change the time of the post. LOL..
How did that happen?? How did your comment get to number 1? Thats the sort of thing I do..
I have been sitting here for an hour trying to figure that one out. That means if we figure it out we could be first every time. Hmmm we need to figure it out.
James can you still nestle a comment?
I cant hack to make a level 6 yet
If I do it goes to the bottom….
See ChemiKals comment at the very bottom. I must have missed the memo Marina put out on posting to the first commenter. As it just keeps adding on to make new comments. She even put a small line at the bottom advising not to comment at the bottom but at the top comment box.
@ Marina could I please make a request.[Could you please let us TA's know of little tid bits of info like this so we can inform others that didn't get the memo you posted.]
Thanks.
I replied to first comment fine.. It only went gasho when I tried hacking it.
I want one child ( a boy) Having more than one can make you tired and then boring when you get old… I have already decided that if I don’t die of smoking related diseases I will be a die hard pensioner… You know, smuggling crack in my mobility scooter
.I want to have a child about 25 years old and get married at that point too. I am old enough to get married now!
Whatever you decide to do James… please don’t go smuggling crack in your mobility scooter… unless that is… it’s powered with a nitrous oxide switch… in case you have the fuzz (cops) on your tail. More than likely, by the time you are that old, they’ll have marijuana muffin franchises exclusively for seniors… 1 half dozen for the geezer with glaucoma… 1 and a half dozen for the skinny old bag who has lost her appetite… 2 dozen for the big fat guy who says he has a pain in the neck!!!
HA!
Football Words revisited [Umpire, Zone, Jock,(cup) Huddle, Flea Flicker ]
I don’t know much about American football.
It’s not a top sport in Europe.
I love soccer though!
Word Request [Toast] like a ‘toast’ to the bride and groom.
to toast them
yum yum
….with tea and marmalade
I like mine with grape jelly and coffee.
HW Thinking I can get it right the next time, if there is a next time.
Here is a related word/phrase origin question: why are they called ‘bridal shower’ and ‘baby shower’s?
Eric M
Eric is sooooo absentminded. {“How absentminded is he?”} He is so absentminded that he forgot to use the square brackets to enclose his word request.
There Eric I fixed it for you. Part of our job is to help the members.
TA Mike
[why are they called ‘bridal shower’ and ‘baby shower’s?]
For the record:
“When the Bride’s bouquet is thrown, it’s treated like a football! But, when the Bride’s garter is thrown it’s treated like a live hand grenade!”
Great observation
if that was a proposal yes!
Have added a post-script (on marriage, children and sex below my earlier homework answer.
Here is my new vid……… I hope its the start of something good…
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=iYcNb84pbhs&feature=channel
That was one of your best. Cool ending.
A marriage must end in either death or divorce ( think about it ) neither a good option.
When people didn’t expect to live much past 40, marriage for life was easier ( having said that, mine only lasted 9 years ).
Whether you blame it on ‘the times’ or just acknowledge bad attitudes or what ever, few have the maturity or sincerity to the commitment required.
The largest tragedy is to the children ( and usually there are, since few are smart enough to wait – hell, few are smart enough to wait until after married ).
If it sounds jaded, so be it, but I did learn from my mistake; many just keep on screwing up.
It’s also easier if you don’t get married until you’re 40.
So, I took a long time and tried a lot of samples before I found a good one …
I have it on good authority it’s the women who choose the men in this life. He can fight for her all he wants, but in the final analysis she will make the choice whether to stay with him or not. Well, I’ve been with the same woman for 14 years. We aren’t married. She said “never again,” and I’m not one to argue. For the time being, it’s all good. And in all seriousness, is there any other time than the time being?
Further up the page you say, “If it ain’t broke, fix it ’til it is!”, and that definitely seems to apply in the case of my sister.
She had two long term relationships without getting married, the first because he was not committed and the second because the first had made her nervous of commitment.
The second relationship has lasted over twenty years and they produced a super daughter who, on her 18th birthday, became their bridesmaid, when my sister finally relented and agreed to get married.
Now, four years later, he wants his “freedom” back again and has moved out, so they seem to have broken it by fixing.
I would agree with you in what you say – if it’s good “for the time being”, cherish it and live for the “now”.
No need to build bridges across dry creeks – it may never rain.
That’s pretty deep, Bob. I love the dry creek analogy.
I can’t say I know the people you’re talking about, but I can say I’ve seen more than a few parallels to your sister’s case in people whose kids are at the point of fledging. I’m not necessarily talking about the act of marriage, per se — mostly, I’m referring to the cohesion of the couple bond.
In the case of your sister and her husband, the marriage itself appears merely to have fallen victim to poor timing, in my opinion. Like many people, they may realize that they are happier together than apart in the dual eventualities of time passage and aging.
Have you ever noticed that there becomes a sudden loss of purpose, a turning point that arises in committed couples when their need to nurture and protect as a team suddenly gives way to the requirement to relinquish control and allow the offspring to go their way in the world without parental supervision? For some, there’s little resolution to this crisis.
I notice that people under stress (especially stress they can’t fully understand) will tend to turn on one another, feeling guilt or fixing blame where perhaps none is warranted. For others, retracing whatever common bonds that brought the couple together before the advent of the child (or children) is often the only thing that can save them from waking up without a mate after 15 or 20 years of cohabitation.
Also, some people have strong passions that drive their life-purpose impulses far beyond that of procreation. The danger lies in disparities between the strengths of such passions within the couple. If only one of the partners still feels a need to pursue those interests he or she may have given up in order to start raising kids, the other may tend to view it as childish or a waste of time and discord will likely result. That’s one pattern I’ve noticed as my friends age and their kids grow up and leave home.
I like Marina’s Youtube title for this lesson: Getting married… Nooo!
Homework
I’m not married and I enjoy being single! 
I’m not ready for that kind of commitment and I doubt I will get married. But, some day I might meet Miss Right and get married. Never say never! 
Night all
DAMN!! I was just about to type 100 then it refreshed!
Hey Hot for Words!
I would like to request the words [Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday]. I know I should probably have only requested one word but as these are the days of the week I thought it would be best to mention them all?
It was after watching your “Wedding” video that put the word “Wednesday” into my head, so I thought I’d ask you about the days of the week as I am quite curious to know as to why they are used for their own day.
Would love to see a video on these in the future!
Thanks,
Lewis
Dear Magnificent Marina,
A friend asked the origin of the term ‘knocked up’ meaning being pregnant came from. I hereby request the origin of the phrase [knocked up] came from.
Humbly submitted,
Gargoylesama
There have been some remarkably mature and insightful comments already, below, and the best of them from unexpected sources – quite a revelation.
Some things are clear;
1. marriages do not fail – people fail at making them successful.
2. Marriage is a contract of commitment; if people fail to realise that or fail to display any commitment, they will fail to make the marriage work. If they are more concerned with their own feelings and desires than those of their partner’s, they will fail to make the marriage work.
As with anything in life you get out in proportion to what you put in or to put it another way, “as ye sow, so shall ye reap.”
3. It is also important to allow the partner their own space and not to live in each other’s pockets. Partners who demand that their spouse dotes on them 24/7 will surely alienate that spouse. Everyone needs some “me” time to be alone with their thoughts and conscience. Possessiveness and jealousy are sure ways to kill any relationship. I do not place a curfew on my wife when she goes to visit her friends for their Thai food parties and she does not complain when I am playing with my flight simulator or surfing the internet/hotforwords.
4. Jeorney mentioned unrealistic expectations and one such is to expect a partner to think, feel and act the same way that you do. During the first couple of years of my marriage, I was not aware of this until I read a book by John Grey called ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’. It is fashionable to dismiss this book as non-scientific, populist rubbish but it’s easy to scoff; ask the one who scoffs if they have applied the information and usually they will say, “of course not.” What validation, then, do such remarks have?
All I can say is that it helped me to understand my wife, so I no longer get irritated with, for example, her ‘back-seat driving’. I now realise that it’s her way of being helpful and contributing to our partnership.
Further, I can avow that we have not had a row or a major disagreement since I read the book, so I commend it to everyone.
P.S. They say marriage is an institution and I’m already committed … I guess that makes me crazy.
HW: It all depends on the reason for a marrage.
Sounds simplistic but it really is.
Don’t wed for looks, they fade and the parts sag.
Don’t wed to satisfy a tingle in your pants.
Don’t wed to enhance status.
Don’t wed for money.
Don’t wed with hidden agendas.
Don’t wed for simple companionship, get a dog.
To raise a family is a good reason, but what after the raising?
You wed for a true commitment to each other, before God, with the intent on following thru on that commitment.
Choose wisely, stay true.
If you can’t, or won’t, then don’t.
It’s the blood sucking gold diggers that scare me. There like vampires. You don’t know until it’s too late. I’ve been bitten way to many times. Next time I’ll just throw them on to my parents. They can suck them dry for all I care. Of course if they are like ticks then they will explode. That should be fun to watch!
DITTO, SIR!
VERY WELL SWAB! NOW GO HELP YOUR SHIPMATE WITH THE SHEETS. I DON’T WANT TO SEE THREE SHEETS TO THE WIND NOW DO WE?!?
Marina did a lesson on that phrase, didn’t she?
Good job swab! I shall promote you from swab to swabby!
NOW MAN YOUR BRACES AND HAUL YOUR SHEET.
TTTTTTOOOOOODDDDDAAAAAYYY!
I really talk like that on a tall ship…
I voted pushup style:
“One, sir
Two, sir
Three, sir
Four, sir
Five, sir”
BTW, when you type a smiley, you have to leave a space after the text and before the smiley or it won’t be converted into a smiley by WP. Even if you click a smiley, you must not remove the space manually or the same thing will happen.
But then you knew that, didn’t you?
Yea it was an edit glitch. It’s fixed now.
Shut up, I don’t do orders.
Whoops *falls overboard*
Yes you do! I told you to vote for Marina and I know very well that you did. So you do follow orders. heheh. Anyway if you didn’t follow mine I know you would follow Marina’s orders to the Tee without question.
In that phrase, what does the T represent?
“Where did the phrase to the tee come from?”
I could explain it to a T for you but I would rather have Marina investigate it. What do you say? Let’s put Marina on the job. I did find a post that it was first used back in 1889 from a book called “Three Men in a Boat”.
Marina is now #1 !!!
Thanks Capt, you’re amazing! (in how you wrote “now here this”, instead of “hear”, hahaha)
Well if you see the time I wrote the comment and the fact that I had been up for several hours, one would guess a mistake would come about from time to time. I think I stayed up for 26 hours that day. What scares me the most is that I hope a minor mistake like that does not cause any injury or loss of life. I’m a bit hard on myself than I should be when I make mistakes. I think it’s a good idea to be a bit hard on ones self. Just as long as it doesn’t get to extreme and causes health issues.
I know what you’re talking about… I’ve been training for exams, and stayed up a lot of nights.
So now, I can say that I’m jet lagged, without ever having to ride a jet!
Right now it’s 3:25 AM, and I’ve just woke up!
Capt. don’t be hard on yourself, you know I was just teasing you. I love doing that to my friends, it keeps them on their toes around me.
OK, now I’m going to try to force myself to sleep, because I can’t keep this up. My biorythm is already way too distort.
Oh I know you were just kidding.
Yes, I am very hard on myself when I make a mistake that I know I could have corrected before hand. For the day someone gets injured or dies from one of my mistakes I will pay the ultimate price. To live with that mistake for the rest of ones life…………..
I’m currently now an instructor. Which I’m no longer in direct responsibly of the operations of vessels, but now have to make sure I train the future captains to be aware of their situations when piloting their vessels. I feel like I’m saving lives by way of remote control or autonomously.
And that is why Marina’s #1 now ? Great job Cap’n
It surely was not me… I just got the ball rolling. You guys are the ones that got the job done. I solute your efforts.
HW: I have been married, and I still am. Once is perfect.
BTW, Great thumbnail, Lady M.
Yeah is shows her attitude to the whole thing.
Looks like she is just about to [sneeze].
That’s fantastic! I’m happy for you.
Hope it’s a long and fruitful marriage.
Oh yes, we definately have fruit.
Wow difficult homework.
I’ll have to put some grey matter into that.
Hopefully not too much smoke will pop out of my ears.
Homework: What do I think about the idea of getting married?
Well that’s a big subject for me. Well first off I would love to have the chance to get married. I have ideas in my head of what I could do for a wedding. Former relationships I’ve had, the ladies told me that I would make a great husband. Some have said they would marry me for on of my pet peeves of putting the toilet seat down. On admired me for my level of commitment to be faithful and that I make effort to spice up the relationship when things get bland. Surprisingly, that had turn one away.
With all that said I don’t think I would ever get married. I have seen what monsters people become after getting married. I’m not talking about the occasional argument. That’s normal. I see people change into something almost completely different from their normal self. Even my best friend was dating a woman for 4 years. They finally tied the knot and a year later they got a divorce. He is scarred from the experience. I think 70% of my family in law has ended up in divorce. Including my parents. I think what’s happening is when couples get married they stop doing the pursuing the relationship. The get comfortable. They treat the marriage like that ‘honey do’ job that never gets done. I see this as a big mistake.
I’m still open to the idea of marriage but now I don’t really care if I ever do or not. From what I have seen, I think the safest bet would be never to get married for I think it would fail the relationship. I would just be happy to have an intelligent life long best friend of the opposite sex. Someone to share life experiences with. I just hope I don’t run into another high maintenance chick.
Be careful who you marry Marina, it will make them a lord..
Hi Marina! Can you please tell me the origin of the word “SHENANIGANS”!!
Pretty please with a cherry on top?
[SHENANIGANS]
Courtesy of the HFW bracketing service.
If I can bundle up some theories, starting with women have a more sensitive sense of smell than men, generally, and much of their sexual attraction to a mate is in the olfactory system.
Scent being important for both sexes. Okay so far, so the pill…
substantially changes the olfactory system, in that a woman’s
sense of smell changes. So when a couple is courting, the woman might be on the pill to prevent pregnancy. After the marriage, she might go off the pill. When she does such a thing,
her mate smells differently. He doesn’t smell like the man she married. Thus, an increase in the divorce rate. One hell of a depressing theory, eh?
I just got back from the Conference where my speech this afternoon was received very well, I probably will be invited to speak again at the 2010 Conference in Southern California. After the Awards Dinner, I danced with Linda and Cathy until the band quit at 11:30 PM. My upper thighs are sore now, because I was dancing with short women. Linda’s 5′, 4″ and Cathy’s 5′, 2″.
I don’t think marriage would be a gamble with you because you would only marry when you truly and deeply love someone (like me). Then our mutual love would overcome all of life’s obstacles. The ancient Latin phrase is “Amor vincit omni”, or “Love conquers all.” So our marriage would be no gamble, and since you’re taller, my legs won’t hurt as much after we dance together!
seesixcm6
it’s nice to be married. As for me I’m not ready for marriage yet. I have plenty of time.
Hello Everyone,
Did you notice that Marina’s photo is now in the number one position on the Sexy Geek voting site?
Marina is leading with 1,853 UP votes.
That is awesome. You guys and gals rawk!!!
In terms of combined votes (Up votes minus Down votes),
Marina has 2,215 votes to go to take that lead. Lets see of we can make that happen by Valentine’s Day.
Please vote every day for Marina at the link above in the red dotted box below the video. Thank you to all of you!!!